Aligning with Your Truth

Someone once asked, "Do you want to be you, or someone's reflection of you?" Simple question. I would guess most of us would respond, "Of course, I want to be me...who else can I be!" But as life would have it, we are often living as reflections of others and up (or down) to their expectations as well. We come into this world brand new and programmable. We learn in our very early years, the norms, rules, and behaviors that are first acceptable in our homes, then our schools, our friends and romantic partners, the workforce and the world at large. We follow without question as youth and this gives us a sense of community and predictability.

As we mature as young adults and well into adulthood however, many of us begin to question some of the generational core beliefs and even core fears we were taught in early childhood. We may begin to feel and experience a river of discrepancies between what feels right for us and what we've always been expected to do or be. It can even feel a little earth shaking if the beliefs are deep rooted, revolve around sexuality, spirituality, political views, and ideas of success to name a few. This chasm that is opening however, is good. Some call it a threshing floor of sorts, when we begin to notice that some of the beliefs we cling to are literally choking the life out of our soul. It requires bravery to begin challenging the status quo, but even more courage to begin to prune what no longer serves you and establish new core beliefs. It is possible that the people closest to us will struggle with acceptance if we begin to operate differently, outside of their expectations of who they feel we should be.

For a short time, you may feel like you are not who you once were but not fully who you are becoming. This too, is good, and I dare say it's part of the journey. We come in as open vessels, we are programmed with the expectations of family and community, then we spend our adult lives learning to find our way back to our true and authentic selves. It's the ultimate game of hide-and-seek as we search out the most authentic versions of ourselves lost along the way. We are learning to navigate life by the beat of our own hearts and desires. This requires a willingness to let go of the "shoulds" of life and step into the power of your true desire. We don't achieve our best lives by working jobs we hate or following the dreams of those we love. As we begin to shed the layers of beliefs that were put upon us, we realign with our personal truth, our most authentic self. We begin to feel alive and passionate about life. When ideas don't sit well with you or cause you dis-ease, take it as a sign that something is out of alignment.

If today was your last day on earth, what dreams, hopes, or untapped gifts are going to die with you? What price did you pay to make everyone around you happy? The answer alone to these kind of questions can help you begin the process of re-discovering who you really are and what you came here to do. They say that true hell is when the person you are meets the person you could have been. If you were demonstrating unconditional love for yourself, what would you readily let go of?

The choice to be who you really are will position you for peace, purpose, passion and power.

Choose wisely.